My guild’s response to this boiled down to “we do it to other people too, and it’s our policy to allow it”.
The story they tell themselves about this seems to be “it’s just how we talk to each other”, which I’d attribute to a lack of conscious awareness of social structure. A person’s social context always frames what they say to affect its meaning. It’s basically how satire works– if you assume that the speaker is on the same page as you, it’s easy to understand when they say something out of character, so you understand they probably don’t mean it literally.
Where I’m going with this is to point out that there’s actually a big difference between a guild officer calling the guild leader a cunt*, and a guild officer publicly shaming a trial raider for making a mistake.
I thought I’d found a great raid group with the “b-team” 10-man raid back in Siege, but it seems like the omg super serial progression realm first group (that is the only option now) takes raiding a bit more seriously than I’m able to while still enjoying the game.
*in Australia the word cunt is still used offensively but has become very trendy among edgy young adults, sort of like black people adopting the word nigger, but with less point to it.